I'm going to disagree with what some of the people have said. Joanna has written a good answer here. I don't pity you at all. I've found it extremely difficult particularly as he does not know how to communicate. I've told people money doesn't buy love. I didn't hear from him all day, is that normal. It's winter here and I figured she was layering for warmth. The closet is deep though I think that's seriously generalizing.
You can also attend their singles conferences, or participate in social activities organized by the Church. I also just care about him enough and admire his reasons for becoming a doctor that I'm willing to make sacrifices so that his life is easier. So yea, I blame residency for his general 'unavailability', and I would assume that is the case with your guy too. Men and women must be willing to accept what they know to be true. In areas with lots of single Mormons of dating and marriageable age, the Church has established singles wards. Btw, you bringing up CES letter shit before thanksgiving will guarantee a very awkward time with the GF and probably the family for the day. Real love just happens.
She sounds so indoctrinated that like even if you try to get her to open up, who knows you might get like a BJ out of it doesn't sound like it but who knowsyou have to realize that a lifetime of conditioning will be set in motion in her mind that will make your life hell. Something that will help you stand out is a strong masculine frame. Joanna mentioned that our theology is rich with opportunities for second chances. I pointed out the fact that the woman only goes after doctors I knew he hated women like that he was slow to catch on since she was charming and slick as snot.
I am a nurse and have been for 10 years. I"am a man married to a female doctor with two daughters one is five years of age the other two and a half. It's all about timing, and you're in two different places. Seclusion has served to preserve their desirable traits, but it also makes it difficult to gain rapport. Sorry dude, she is in way to deep. My wife told me she does not want to know if the church is false, so I don't pressure her. That grad student better be working that hard if he or she wants to make it. I even had three kids in with me during a impromptu vaginal examination when I was preggo with my fourth. I have known many women who have married non-members and are happy.